What Cancer and Motherhood Have Taught Me

So many things can happen in a year, a month, a day and even in just one single second.

Last year, I recorded my testimonial to send out a message during the month dedicated to Breast Cancer Awareness.

 

This year, I am sitting by my son’s hospital bed, hoping the recovery after his recent surgery will go as smooth as possible. This is our third visit to London for his medical care this year, and in the background of my overcrowded brain, lies the concern of my own well being as well as taking care of my family.

Being a mom has taught me more than I ever imagined possible.

Being a mom of a sick child and surviving cancer has been absolutely overwhelming.

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I have learned to appreciate every minute of every day because we have a few too many bad minutes to make up for.

I have learned to accept that no matter how much you plan – 9 out of 10 times things will go the opposite way of that plan, whether it’s something as simple as going out for an afternoon or plans for surgery. I go with what comes my way as best as I can, and try to provide Henry with as many positive and fun experiences as I can.

As difficult as it has been I have learned that it is not possible to commit to things for long periods of time. I have had to accept that I can work on smaller projects and make smaller commitments, it provides a small amount of stability and allows me to feel like a person so that I can be a mom.

I found that there are times when it ok to lose my s*%t in order to clear up my mind for when the days get tough.

I have learned how easy and important it is to become an expert in a medical condition you had no idea existed.

I have accepted that I need to take things one day at a time and on days like these, one hour at a time and that it’s really okay.

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One of the most difficult things for me to learn was to be mindful of my own needs because, in the end, if I am not well, I won’t be able to take care of my family.

I have also learned how important it is to have a support system and to ask for help. My tribe of family and friends have provided endless support that has made a world of difference in my life.

And all the while staying positive and looking to the future, for me, my little boy, my husband and our little family unit. Things have been difficult beyond anything I could have ever believed, but plenty of good has come out of the bad and for this I am grateful, and I have grown and it has made me the person, wife and mom that I am.

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3 Comments
  1. A beautiful, heartfelt post 🙂

    I don’t keep up-to-date with blogs that much (anymore) so pardon any gaps in communication. I hope that everything goes well in London and it would be lovely to meet up when you’re back. I think Henry and Tom will bond (or fight!) over diggers and cranes and dump trucks haha 🙂

    1. Life and little ones keep us busy enough! So far, so good… with only a few hiccups. It would be lovely to meet up when we are back. Heheh yes they will bind (or fight) over all the construction but it’s worth a try! Haha

  2. A true example to us all, how much we fret on useless things that at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter. i feel grateful for your sharing with us, as much as we can offer our help to you through psychological support, live testimonies such as yours makes us put things in perspective. Sharing is so liberating ….

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